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Keep things in perspective

When things are going your way, people will tell you to keep things in perspective – and that is fair enough. Particularly when you are starting out, they may see your pursuit of your new life as being an all-encompassing quest and tell you that it is all about finding balance and living a balanced lifestyle.

Now remember, balance is an idea. As they might say in Ireland, it is a grand idea. Only it is not a very practical one. If you want to live your best life, balance will rarely exist. For it is a very idealistic concept and not at all realistic.

Like the accomplishment of all extraordinary results, what you are trying to achieve will often mean having to give it your all-in pursuit of having it all. You may have to give all your time to achieve what now matters most to you to see it become a reality. This being the case, a balanced lifestyle may be impossible as you dedicate yourself to living the life you were born to live.

If you are told you are out of balance or you feel this might be the case for you, it usually means that other things that matter are not getting attention. The fact is that when you truly do what is most important to you, some things won’t get done or receive attention. This is a necessary trade-off for the achievement of extraordinary results, just like the achievement of the life you truly want to be living, which will often require your total focus and energy on that and that alone.

There will also be a lot of fear, both real and perceived, as you take the steps to bring your life forward. Like we have already seen, the fear never goes away fully. Likewise, this can be a time of big changes. And with change, what people fear most of all is loss. This could be the loss of the old life they had been living and all the security and safety that went with that.

As you move from the life you are living to the life you want to live, there may well be a sense of loss for all that you are now leaving behind. When dealing with and overcoming this sense of loss, our storytellers were first of all grateful for the life they had lived. They acknowledged what they were losing and leaving behind as they let go of their old life. They accepted that they were going through this to experience the better life that lay ahead. As they took steps to move forward, they stayed focused on the life they wanted to live, knowing that this is a great way to deal with fear.

If you want to follow up on what has been written here and get to read fourteen stories of people who figured out why they were born and learned to live their truth – and how you can too then please get a copy of my new book Showing Your True Colours.

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A New Year, A New You

A New Year, A New You, Self-leadership and Goal Setting for 2019.

Nobody made a greater mistake than he who did nothing
because he could do only a little.

Edmund Burke

Whether or not you follow the life you want to live, it won’t be easy either way, so why not just go for it? At least then, through all the struggles and strife, it will be in pursuit of what matters most to you as a person. Living a life of self-leadership is not easy – far from it. It is tough, requiring determination and great effort on your part to keep moving forward if you want to live a life of success and happiness.

Now at the start of a new year will you please take a moment to think of a time when you had to show real determination in your own life so as to not give in or give up; a time when you had to dig deep within yourself so as to keep moving forward in your life. Maybe it was when you lost a job, the ending of a relationship, a business venture failed, or you faced health issues.

Think also of a time when you had to show real determination to achieve something that you wanted in your life. A time when you were determined to get a job, hold onto a job, see a new business venture succeed, deal with an addiction or achieve any personal or professional goal. Showing determination, either in the face of adversity or in pursuit of something meaningful, is the first trait of a self-leader.

Remember now as you set out some goals that you would like to achieve this year that wanting to bring your life and work to a better place in the future, will mean having to deal with and overcome the many problems, challenges and demands that will inevitably arise. Many people have the false belief that as they achieve success, they will be faced with fewer problems. In fact, it is often the opposite. There are always challenges and problems to overcome in life and work. The challenges and problems will just be in direct proportion to the level of success and happiness you want in life. There will be times when you will be tempted to give in, believing the challenges and problems to be dealt with are simply too much for you. This is often precisely when there is a need to rise to the occasion. Those who really want success and happiness have the persistence and determination to keep moving forward in pursuit of the life they want, regardless of the challenges and problems that face them. So every success and best wishes as you now set the goals you want to achieve in 2019.

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