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When you hear the word ‘change’, what is now going to come to mind for you?

 

Do you see change as something frightening or do you see it as a challenge to be dealt with, or even an opportunity to grow and develop in your life and work? So going forward, when you hear the word ‘change’, what is now going to come to mind for you? When it comes to dealing with or making changes within my own life and work, the following quote from W.B. Yeats comes to mind:

“All changed, changed utterly.”

This has been true for so many of the major changes in my life, including going to live as a monk and then, eight years later, dealing with the upheaval of leaving the monks. On a professional level, it also applied when I left my secure and pensionable job to become self-employed. Yes, change can be dangerous and challenging because it involves moving from the known to the unknown. Regardless of how you have dealt with change in the past, it really is up to you to make sure all change starts with you. When you do this, you have control over what you want to change and how this can best be done. If making a change is a major issue for you, then try taking small actions. There really is nothing wrong with moving forward slowly. Taking small actions can still take you forward. Never be afraid of celebrating small actions within life and work. The Chinese philosopher Lao Tsu believed:

“You will achieve the great task(s) by a series of small actions.”

To learn and change involves repetition, so be willing to be incredibly patient. It is also crucial to focus on the success of small beginnings. Most success starts small. Even the Irish airline Ryanair started with only one plane back in 1985. It has gone on and grown to become the most profitable airline in Europe. From the outset, they have done this by being very creative and following through on what they know works best for them as a business in small, incremental ways.

This is your life and it is worth investing time and energy into getting creative to see how best to make changes to improve it. Self-leaders take the time to identify the changes they can make: ones that have the potential of moving them forward in pursuit of the life they want to be living. Having identified them, they get creative and search out ways to implement them.
When dealing with and making changes in their life, self- leaders remain mindful of the following obstacles that can arise:

1. At times, they can get confused and have no clear direction, other than they know that they want to bring their life to a better place. A possible solution to this is to accept and then deal with the fact that they may have an investment in being confused.

Clarity means decisions, change and a commitment to move forward in life. They understand that one way through this is to be inspired to change and see the possible benefits for their future. Another is to make it more painful not to change, staying trapped where they are with things going from bad to worse, so that they have no choice but to change, and this spurs them on.

2. They might feel they have too much invested in their current situation. They might, in effect, say: “This would be so painful to change.” Then they tend to focus on the worst that could happen and not on the best that could happen.

If this is the case, they accept that being open to change is not always easy and, more often than not, it is very difficult. For the most part, it involves overcoming difficulties, problems and challenges in your life and work. Remember, if you associate change with pain and loss, why would you ever want to change?
Often it is not the change that is painful, but people’s resistance to this change, their attachment to old ways, beliefs and concepts that causes their pain. It is due to them wanting to hold onto the past rather than let go and move on with their life.

If you want to follow up on what I have written here and living a life of true and real success for you, please check out my books—available from Amazon.

 

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Are you ready to start back as you mean to go on?

Welcome back and do hope you had a good break over the summer. Really hope you are feeling rested and ready to go once again and if not, no worries at all. Only, if you have come back rested or want to feel rested going forward, are you ready to start back as you mean to go on? If so, well then read on

One night, I got to hear a speaker talk about his need to start every day with a fifteen-minute meditation. This calmed him down and got him grounded to be better positioned to deal with and take on the challenges of the day in a more creative and energised way. (His weakness was that he allowed himself to be pulled in to many different directions during his working day.)
At the end of the talk, he was asked, “what he does on really long and busy days?” His answer: on days like that, he usually does thirty minutes of meditation!

That you now continue to take time out for when you do it will allow you to keep on learning how to live and make the most of the life you are living. Self-leaders allow themselves the time to be silent, and so they cultivate the power of the imagination, which helps them move towards what they want their life and work to be about. For you, this time out may only be ten to fifteen minutes once a week. This is a brilliant start and will give you something solid to build on. Make the most of this time and use it constructively. It is not about looking back over the past and digging up regrets and mistakes or just day-dreaming about the future. Look at where you want to go and what you are doing about it.

Work at developing a mechanism that allows you to take time out regularly. Space and time will let you gather your energy and thoughts and stop yourself from being pulled in different directions daily. Once you have discovered what works for you to achieve this, have the courage and determination to just do it daily. Any time spent allowing yourself to recharge your batteries and get creative is not wasted, even if it is just taking a few minutes out to be quiet, to just stand back from all the hustle and bustle around you. This alone will improve your understanding of what is going on for you and how best you can respond to it. You need to be aware of what it is you are reacting to and work out how you can positively respond to it instead. (If you are reacting to what is going on around, you are not in charge–only by responding do you get to take control of the situation.)

You need to not only look at what is happening, but also why it is happening. It will also give you the opportunity to realize the different choices you may have and to think about the implications of each option. This will improve your decision-making abilities. If you can ensure you have regular times out, it will also allow you to learn from living.
Self-leaders know that the more they can maintain their energy and sense of creativity, the more resilient they will be, the more they will keep going and the more likely they will be to go on and live the life they want to live. They understand that taking time out to build up their energy and creativity will allow them to move forward in the face of their fears and doubts.
If you want to follow up on what I have written here and living a life of true and real success for you, please check out my books—available from AMAZON

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