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So many things can stop people from living the life they truly want to live, the major one being that as humans we are psychologically, emotionally, cognitively and spiritually hardwired for belonging, love and connection.

Connection, along with love and belonging (two expressions of connection), is why we are here, and for so many of us, it gives purpose and meaning to our lives. The only thing is, if you are to live the life you truly want to be living, then it might just mean having to back off and disengage from those around you, at least for a while anyway. Alternatively, it may even mean having to walk away from your old existence and those around you, as you set out on a new and better path for your life and work. But walking away from all that you know and the life you have been living can be tough. Tough for both you and those you are leaving behind. There may well be pain as you set out to live a new life, for as we are hardwired for connection, disconnection always causes us pain. What is happening now is that you are finding out who you really are as a person, not who you believe other people think you are or want you to be or become.

Now, it is no longer just a matter of fitting in. If you are to live your best life, it will have to be a life of belonging. Fitting in and belonging are not the same thing. In fact, fitting in is one of the greatest barriers to belonging. Fitting in is about assessing a situation and becoming who you need to be so as to be accepted. Belonging does not require you to change who you are; it requires you to be who you are. That happens when you live a life that is true for you; for when you do, you become true to who you really are and get to show your true colours. Belonging is being where you want to be and where other people want you for who you are; unlike fitting in, which can mean being somewhere where you really want to be, yet they do not care about your presence either way.

Deciding to figure out and go live the life you were born to live can often cause significant concern and worry to those around you, particularly if it means having to disengage from or walk away from all you know. Others may well worry that you are ‘giving up’ on life. It can appear to the world as if you are running away, when in fact you are now running to life, whatever they may think.

What can often be harder still is if your culture, community or background uses a measuring stick of particular acquisitions and accomplishments to assess a person’s worth. If this is the world you live in and the people with whom you associate, it will be a challenge to walk away from all this. Leaving the herd and safety of the life you know to live a new life is scary. This is why so few people do it.

If you want to follow up on what has been written here and get to read fourteen stories of people who figured out why they were born and learned to live their truth – and how you can too then please get a copy of my new book Showing Your True Colours

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Letting life pass you by

By Michael Daly

On 02/09/2023

In Life, Success, Work

Are you in danger of letting life pass you by and don’t want this to be the case for you anymore. Have you got to a point where you are ready to play a hand in creating the life you want to live – even with all the challenges involved. That to survive is no longer enough, that you want to thrive in life; and now accept that there is a timeline involved if this is ever going to happen for you. Has it become a case of getting going, for you truly now understand that time and tide wait for no one.

Something has to give if you want to come home to who you really are. To ask whether your life choices and decisions are comforting and nourishing your spirit, or whether they only offer a temporary respite from having to deal with hard emotions, which are ultimately diminishing your spirit.

Are your choices leading to a life of genuine success, or do they leave you feeling empty? For having accepted that you no longer want to go on living the life you are living, you then have to make a choice based on:
1. Do I sit here and spend the rest of my days complaining and whining about the life I am living?
Or,
2. Do I get up, take responsibility for my life and go figure out what I am meant to be doing with it – and then go live it, whatever it takes?
Having answered ‘no’ to the first and ‘yes’ to the second, then it really comes down to creating a new future for yourself. For once you understand your true purpose in life:

Clarity comes more quickly, which leads to your having more belief in the direction you want to bring to your life, which leads to your making faster decisions;
When you make faster decisions, you’ll often be the one who reaches a decision first and winds up making the best choices; when you make the best choices, you have more opportunity for the best experiences.

Likewise, to know these truths:

Living your life in accordance with why you were born is the straightest path to power and the ultimate source of personal strength, strength of belief and strength to persevere.
The prescription for achieving extraordinary results lies in knowing what matters to you and then taking daily doses of action in alignment with this.
Having clarity around the life you want to be living will help you when things just don’t seem to be going your way.
Living your life in accordance with what you really want to be doing will provide the ultimate glue to help you stick to the path you’ve set yourself towards and the life you desire.
When what you are doing matches the life you are meant to be living, your days will feel harmonious, and the path you beat with your feet seems to match the sound in your head and heart.
Living your life in accordance with whatever it is that you truly want to do is the most powerful approach of all and the happiest.

For a sense of purpose, meaning and significance all make for a successful life. To have that desire to become the author of your own life and the captain of your own ship. Maintain that longing to be true to yourself. To now do the work that this entails, you have to rise and shine and commit to doing it.

Published by Genius Media it is available from:
Amazon and Genius Media

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