Self-leadership, staying on track and achieving your goals will often mean that there will be a danger that as you are about to achieve your goals, you will get pulled back. If faced with the option of either standing out or fitting in, the only decision really is whether to go for it and run the risk of getting dragged down or stay where you are in life.

Choosing to either fit in or stand out can be a really tough decision either way. When faced with difficulties or problems as you pursue your goals, self-leaders ask themselves intuitively: “What gift does this difficulty or problem hide?” They note the answer, which may be something like a new way of thinking, a new way of doing something or the opportunity to take a risk.
They understand that determination and stamina are required, when faced with difficulties or problems that have been caused either by their own making or because of some bad luck. When setting out to achieve their goals, self-leaders do not go out of their way to make life any harder than it has to be. They look for the path of least resistance. However, this does not stop them from taking difficult decisions and staying determined to see them through in the pursuit of the life they want to live.
If your instinct is to try and avoid dealing with a difficulty or problem, then the next time you are confronted with such a situation, do your utmost to maintain your energy and commitment to stay determined to step up to the challenge and overcome the difficulty or problem you face. If you do this, you might just find yourself tackling difficulties and problems as they arise with more drive and enthusiasm.

We all have fears and more so when pursuing the life, we really want to live, many of which we are unaware of. The first step is to become aware and accept that these fears can be rational or irrational. Regardless of whether they are rational or irrational, they are always personal to us as individuals. Remember, all ‘fear’ really stands for is: False Expectations Appearing Real

If you want to lessen your fears, once you are aware of them, you will have to face them. There really is no simple solution. Moving beyond a fear requires you to bring reason to the situation, along with courage and determination. If confrontation is something you fear, then the more you have to deal with it, and stay determined to do so, the less fear it will hold. If you accept the situations in which you find yourself and work at converting them into something positive – which is not easily done – this can have really positive results in your life and work.