Blog | Michael Daly

It can be tempting to wait until the ‘perfect’ moment and to be in the perfect position before attempting to live the life you truly want to enjoy. This is understandable, for so much importance is placed upon our being correct and being perfect. To be perfect in every sense, whether that’s having the perfect teeth, figure, career, clothes, hair and partner, or the perfect life. The truth is that the idea of being perfect is really about trying to earn approval and being concerned about what others will think. It means being afraid of making mistakes, not meeting other people’s or your own expectations – and the criticism that often goes with this.

If you strive to always get things right and achieve a sense of perfection, there is one sure outcome that this will have, and that is, it will crush your creativity. And being creative is exactly what you are doing when you set out to live your best life – for you truly are creating a new life. It is therefore often the pressure of perfection that stops people in their tracks from living their life to the full. If this is the case for you, please remember there’s a lovely Egyptian proverb that says: ‘A beautiful thing is never perfect.’

Likewise, at times you will often be your own greatest critic as you set out on your journey to your best life, so you don’t need to take on board what others think of you on top of this. Change your attitude to a case of doing the right thing but not always about having to do everything right.

As well as perfectionism, there is the fear of failing. This too can and often does hold people back, as not only do they not want to fail but they don’t want to be seen as a failure. The thing is, will these fears be strong enough to stop you from going forward with your life? Do you have what it takes or are you prepared to learn what it takes to deal with these fears and take the necessary steps to move your life forward? Remember that the best way to deal with any fear is to face it head-on.

Truly do want to wish you a very Happy Christmas and look forward to seeing you back here in January and the start of a great 2024.
If you want to follow up on what has been written here and get to read fourteen stories of people who figured out why they were born and learned to live their truth – and how you can too then please get a copy of my new book Showing Your True Colours

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There will be those who will rejoice with you if and when you choose to go and live your best life. Yet many more will envy you for having the courage to do this. For many people, whether they admit it to themselves or not, there will be jealousy, lots of jealousy. With this being the case, you will need to start to care little for what others think of you and place yourself in the position of answering to no one, only to yourself. You will have to accept that what others think of you is none of your business.

Often, the fear of potential loneliness, rejection and ridicule can be too much for some. Better they do not rock the boat (a sailing term used by the captain to describe keeping things the way they are), as it seems much safer to do nothing and to stay living the life they have. Now, many of our storytellers talk of the loneliness they felt on going to pursue the life they were born to live. At the start, there was sometimes unbelievable loneliness and a genuine fear of never being part of anything again. For so many, this is often the point at which they falter. They struggle so much with the loneliness that they find it impossible to keep going and they return to their old life. The journey towards seeing their dream life become a reality seems just too much. The thing is, hard as it may be, this sort of loneliness is normal at the start of setting out to live your best life.

Now, this is not about pursuing your desires in a narcissistic sense. Whatever your goals, you will need to take into account, as best you can, your family, friends and relationships. But when you stop worrying about what everyone else thinks of you, there’s no longer any need to try to be perfect all the time. Being concerned about what others think of you and striving to be perfect will no longer be enough to keep you from living the life you were born to live.

If you want to follow up on what has been written here and get to read fourteen stories of people who figured out why they were born and learned to live their truth – and how you can too then please get a copy of my new book Showing Your True Colours

Published by Genius Media it is available from:

Amazon & Genius Media

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Michael Daly

Author, Speaker, Mentor

The ‘perfect’ moment

What others think of you is none of your business.