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Want to live a life of success and happiness?

Well then if you truly you want to live a life of success and happiness, you really need to define what this means to you. Doing this will provide a focus on what you need to do to achieve this. This is something that must be done continuously as your definition can and often will change throughout life.

What you might have considered to be success and happiness in your twenties might not be the same in your thirties and forties, for example. Even on a daily basis, it is often relative to what you need on that day or at that particular time in your life.

Now, what if you’re not in a position to build your life and work around your passions and strengths? Does this mean you can’t have success and happiness in your life and work? No, of course not, there is always the future even if it might not be possible to follow your passions and strengths right now. However, you can still see what you can do right now that will move you in the direction of more success and happiness, either now or in the future.

You can never get to where you want to go unless you know where you are going. The same applies to success and happiness. How do you know what this means to you unless you have taken the time to define it? To begin with, it is enough just to define success and happiness – forget about how you are going to reach it. Right now, that is not important. What is important is stating very clearly what you want and why it is so important to have it. Do this first and then look at how best to achieve it.

In the end, nobody cares how much money they made or what car they drove or what awards they won. You cannot take anything of monetary value with you when you die. It is better not to wait until the end of your life to realise that it was the relationships you had and the actions you took to improve the lives of others that mattered most. Appreciate these things today. Many people don’t even ask themselves what it would mean to be truly successful and happy. For doing so might lead to even greater disappointment. If they set out to discover what they want in their life, knowing this and then believing they can’t achieve it might be even more frustrating.

Only you can set out a path that is worth travelling in pursuit of your vision of the life you want. Once you have set out to achieve your vision, you will be successful because you will be on the right path in life. You will not only enjoy the moment of reaching your vision but also the journey there.

Self-leaders set out clearly in their mind where they want their life and work to be in the future. They then put this vision down on paper so it’s clearly written in front of their eyes. Once they have done this, they take the steps needed to make this vision a reality.

In my new book Showing Your True Colours which will be launched later in the month on the 29th you will get to share in the stories of Self-leaders who truly do want to live a life of success and happiness, and they show how you can to.

If you want to follow up on what I have written here and living a life of true and real success for you, please check out my books—available from Amazon.


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Describing your vision

When it comes to describing your vision, you need to look at what you want to eliminate from your life, what you want to add to it and what you want to leave unchanged. You need to identify what bothers you. It’s then about describing your future vision around these things. Keep what is good, remove what is bad and add what will make the vision one of real success and happiness for you.

True vision is not seen through the eyes of the body but through the eyes of the mind. That is why it is so important to engage your mind when setting out the vision. Regardless of where you are in life, you have the capacity to live a life with vision and imagine a different future. But to have any chance of living out the vision, it needs to excite your mind and touch your heart.

How many people have a clear idea of what living a life of success and happiness means to them? Does it mean having more money, a bigger car, more holidays, a better job and a nice partner? How many people have really taken the time to step back and ask themselves what true success and happiness mean to them in their life and work, and what it would be like to live a life of self-leadership in pursuit of their life’s vision?

If you never define your vision of success and happiness, then nothing is going to change and whatever is most urgent will always get done first. If you only do what is urgent at any given time, your life will not go forward in the way that you would have hoped. Living like this will not give you a successful, happy, fulfilling and productive life. If the most important things are not prioritised and done first, there is a real danger that everything will be treated as equal. Separate the urgent from the important and work on getting the important done.


    • What do success and happiness mean to you?
    • What makes you happiest and when are you at your best?
    • What gives you enjoyment and pleasure and a sense of purpose?
    • How you do want to grow and develop as a person and what must be done to achieve this?

Asking yourself these questions will lead to the truth of what you are doing with your life and why. If you are brutally honest with yourself, the answers can often be about other people’s success and happiness. What it is they have (or very often what you think they have) and your desire to have the same. For a great many people, it has been defined by their parents, the education they have received, their work, their friends or the community in which they were brought up.
What makes your heart pump, but in a good way? What gives you that sense of excitement and adrenalin? When this happens, it can often give a good indication of what success and happiness mean to you.

Yet it is more than this. There is also a need to understand and recognise what you are passionate about and where your potential lies. People who build their lives around their passions using their full potential, generally live far happier and more successful lives.

Only you can define your vision of success and happiness. What do success and happiness mean to you?
Do hope you get to have a good summer as I am going to take a break for now and will be back with the next blog in September. Take good care of yourself and thanks for all the support.
If you want to follow up on what I have written here and live a life of true and real success for you, please check out my books—available on Amazon.


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