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Well this month it’s all about living a life of true success

Well this month it’s all about living a life of true success and very grateful to his Excellency Mr. Patrick Bourne, Ambassador of Ireland to Singapore, Lord Mayor of Dublin Paul McAuliffe and Ronald J. Bolger Honorary Consul-General of Singapore in Ireland for the launch of my new book Conversations In Singapore: Searching for True Success on the Silk Road One Question at a Time, available at Liberties Press.

In 2015 I got to drive overland from London to Sydney. A journey that was to involve travelling through 23 countries. It took twenty-two-weeks to complete taking in the Silk Road from Istanbul in Turkey to the end of the Great Wall in China.

The purpose of the trip was twofold –
Firstly as a personal adventure and secondly as a source of inspiration for the writing of a new book on the meaning of true success and not just what the dictionary and common culture would have us believe it is.

It was a journey through some of the world’s most inhospitable regions and difficult terrains: a daunting route to many places I had never heard of before. Camping would often be the only means of accommodation available in such desolate environments as the Tajikistan-Afghanistan border.

The only thing is, my life, and the book I had set out to write, and was writing during my travels, were to change utterly, and amazingly, while staying in Singapore. Parandin, whom I was to meet in Singapore, allowed me to enter into her world and that of her family while staying at their hotel.

She shared with me the knowledge, wisdom and profound insight (developed over many generations and handed down to her) into the true meaning of what it is to be successful in life. She came from a tradition of people who were passionate about supporting and encouraging people to live lives of true success.

They believed that, from ancient theology to contemporary psychology, our words shape our story and this becomes the framework for our behaviours; and our behaviours determine the way we lead our life, and the success we have. That the story we tell about our life becomes the story of our life, because we do not so much tell stories, as stories tell us.

The book weaves the conversations with Parandin as to how best live a life of true success with the story of the journey on the Silk Road itself.

So if you are feeling:

Lost, with no real sense of what true success is for you or how it could be achieved within your life;

Angry and disappointed that the success you want for your life has evaded you to date;

That you have been pursuing the wrong type of success for you, or even in fact that you have been pursuing what others see as success for you;

Disheartened, believing that it is now too late in your life to achieve that success you would now so readily accept, or;

That you are at an age where you are only now setting out in life, and want to know what it would be for you to live a life of true success.

Only now, none of these can be enough to stop you. The true success you want for your life can be made real; it really can. This is your life and your life alone; it is worth investing in it at every level. I wish you true success in every area of your life, in a way that is unique to you and that engages your heart at the deepest level. I encourage you to keep striving, even when you meet with disappointments along the way.

Improve my life with NLP

Self-leadership begins with you as an individual and your willingness to improve your life. So, with this in mind really am grateful for the opportunity to have got to do NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) this year and improve my life in some small way.

Improving on and building a better life doesn’t mean there’s a need for big or grandiose achievements. While these may happen, they don’t have to for you to live a life of self-leadership. Becoming a self-leader doesn’t mean you have to set out to save the world or anything like that. What is meant is that you identify what you love and want to do in life. Having done this, you then give it your all to make these things happen, to take ownership and the responsibility to see that they become an integral part of everything you do as you move forward with your life.

Luck favours the brave and, if you want to live the life of a self-leader, you will need some element of luck, but you will also need to be brave and determined. The fact is, luck often only comes to those who do the legwork, the ones who are prepared to put the time, effort and energy into looking at where they want to be in their life and how best to make this a reality. They are the ones who have the determination to go on and take action to make sure they have a chance of achieving the life they want to live. They understand that they must take on the traits of the self-leader within their life and work if they are to succeed and be successful.

How many people are just going through the motions of day to day living, reliving the same week over and over again? Indeed, for many people nowadays, it is not only a matter of going through the motions: it is a case of hanging in there and getting through each day, living day to day. People speak in terms of success being about survival, both personally and professionally.

People end up watching the same programmes on television, making the same daily journey(s), doing the same things day in, day out. They build their lives around the schedules they have for their work (that is, if they have work to go to), home and sleep. They keep their head down and get on with it without allowing themselves time to break out of the daily cycle of their lives. This gives them no time to think or work towards having a better and brighter future for themselves, their family and their community.

Is this the case for you? Honestly, are you one of those people going through the motions of day to day living, reliving the same week over and over? Or are you just hanging in there, getting through each day, living day to day? Many people are in this situation, but it doesn’t have to be like that. It is my belief that each and every person can live a life of success and happiness, regardless of their past or the life they are living right now. While they may never have taken the time to think about what they want and why they want it, that does not mean it has to be this way. So, go on and give yourself sometime out to look at the life you really want to be living.

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