Michael Daly

Author, Speaker, Mentor

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Self-leadership and achieving your goals

Self-leadership and achieving your goals. And really do hope the year is going well for you and that you are hanging in there and pursuing the goals you wanted to see being achieved this year. And if not remember Self-leaders tend not to dwell on the negative and always look to see the benefits of the situation. The past is not going to invent their future, as this is something they will not entertain. They find a way to move on and create their future; they always find a way to move on, regardless of the circumstances they find themselves in.

When things are not going their way and the whole world seems to be against them, they:

A. accept that they will experience both positive and negative emotions, but they keep moving towards the life they want to live;

B. trust in their abilities and know they can learn from their mistakes as well as their successes;

C. follow their instincts, rather than being influenced by the opinions of others.
Now take a moment to identify the last difficulty or problem you had to deal with. Perhaps you couldn’t pay a bill; you couldn’t make a decision whether to accept or reject an invitation; you felt let down by someone and didn’t know what to do about it and so on.

How did you deal with it?

• Did you deal with it head on?
• Did you do nothing in the hope that it would go away?
• Did you get busy, so you didn’t have to think about it?
• Perhaps you hoped someone else would come along and solve it for you.
• Maybe you sought out advice and assistance, so you could deal with it.

Next, please go one step further and name the difficulty, problem or goal that you have to deal with or achieve in your life at this time.
Which option from the above would best assist you at this time? Regardless of the difficulties or problems you are now facing in pursuit of achieving your goal(s), please keep in mind the serenity prayer by Karl Paul Reinhold Niebuhr: God, give us grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed, courage to change the things that should be changed, And wisdom to distinguish the one from the other.

Self-leaders recognise and accept the fact that overcoming difficulties and problems in pursuit of the life they want to be living does lead to a greater sense of fulfilment. They know that this makes them stronger, ready for the next challenge and whatever difficulties or problems life will present. Sooner or later, most people learn that the future is not determined so much by what happens to them. Who they are and what they become will be decided predominantly by how they respond to the difficulties and problems that confront them and please do let this be the case for you as you pursue your goals.

Self-leadership and true success.

This month, it’s all about focus, Self-leadership and true success as I promote my book after its launch last month.

The word ‘focus’ has two main meanings. It can refer either to the ability to sort through many issues and recognise which are most important to you: so, being able to focus deeply means being able to process things thoroughly. ‘Focus’ can also mean the ability to bring constant weight to bear on the issues needing attention once they have been identified. This is the decisive-like quality of focus. So, when I use the word ‘focus’, here I’m incorporating both of these meanings.

People often need to sharpen both aspects of their focus. They have to process things thoroughly, allowing them to be decisive and thereby enabling them to manage, lead and perform with extreme accuracy and impact.

Staying focused is really about making sure you don’t get pulled in every direction, only in the direction that matters most to you. This very much comes down to what you focus on. If you focus on what’s good about your day, you will have a good day; when you focus on what’s bad, there’s a greater chance you will have a bad day. Similarly, if you focus on a problem, the problem increases; if you are prepared to focus on a solution, the solution becomes more important.

The focus is not right if we always react to and attend to what is urgent and ignore the most important things. Like I write about in the book, it is important to have a pension plan but often not urgent. You might not need it now but if you keep putting it off, then one day it will become urgent or it will be too late. When we are reacting to and getting done what is urgent, it is often in response to what others have identified as urgent. Staying focused will allow you to see what is important and must be responded to in order to get that done in a timely fashion. Meanwhile, allegedly urgent matters, if always reacted to immediately, have a greater chance of stopping you getting more important things done.

One of the simple truths of life is that people who try to do everything often achieve nothing. They often achieve nothing because they are so busy trying to do too much. By staying focused, you will put in motion a course of action that will allow you to create your unique vision and the life you truly want to be living. Having done this, focus will allow you to work out the best way to see this life become a reality. When you do this, you have a far greater chance of achieving what is most important to you.

So, again for me it’s all about focusing on getting my book out there this month and letting individuals, groups and organisations know about the work I do. Knowing that with this focus, I will have greater clarity and direction, allowing me to be completely positive, resourceful and resilient. All the qualities that will be needed to be called upon if I want to live a life of Self-leadership. Knowing that this focus, this willingness to apply disproportionate pressure in pursuit of a few selected goals in my life and work at this time, won’t leave me weak and limited, or even shallow, as some might claim. Counter-intuitively, this kind of unequal focus will actually increase my capacity and fuel my strength at this time.

So, remember,

The man who chases two rabbits catches neither.
~ Confucius ~

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